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Facebook and Twitter are social media outlets that most of us use daily. They allow us to keep up with friends, family and connect with celebrities. That last one is more less for twitter where you have the ability to follow a person, place or thing.
But there is irony in the mediums. They are suppose to CONNECT us, yet I find as well as many others I talk to, they find it to be distracting, causing problems and becoming more of a bad thing then a good thing.
THINK ABOUT IT!
Before FB/Twitter you were your own person. You didn't feel the need to see what your friends were posting, what they liked or shared. You didn't bother to define a relationship by being friends on social media sites and no one heard of a random add or message. You simply lived your life. You didn't know if say Cindy hated you or if Max didn't invite you to an event or lied to you. It was what it was, but FB?Twitter now allows us to see all of these things whether we want to or not and they keep expanding on it to make things worse, We can now see when people read our messages, when they comment on something or when they add new people. It's actually quite scary.
We rely on these sites too much, they have now become an easier escape root of sending someone a message no not by chat but figuratively. We BLOCK people, UNFRIEND/ UNFOLLOW them. We make status updates hinted at the person, in hopes they see it. The person in turn is suppose to just ACCEPT that and move on. Maybe its my Newfoundland ways or my BA in Communications but wouldn't it be beneficial to just TALK IT OUT, not everything has to end so awkwardly. This hinting game is childish and not mature. REAL LIFE is not like FB, you can't block your boss, family or strangers from talking but yet we have that mentality that its ACCEPTABLE to do that now. It's just a very cheap way of ending things or not bothering to fix a situation.
The NORM has changed due to social media. And it's a can't win situation. Remember when a story of how people met was strangers talking to strangers (that's what we all are until we communicate and move things forward) AND here's the kicker it wasn't THAT weird cause that was the only way of communicating. If you wanted to talk to someone you built up the courage to go over and talk to them and you'd get to know each other face to face. You might exchang numbers but other than that YOU got to know the person by ENGAGING with them, not browsing their profile.
But here is the thing, when a random person that you just met or maybe just has an interest in knowing you adds you or messages you on FB that is NOT NORMAL, but yet in this day and age if they tried the earlier version THAT wouldn't be normal either. You CAN'T have it BOTH ways.
We are a fucked up generation due to technology, it becomes an easy escape from reality or how to handle things.
MY PERSONAL EXPERIENCE:
I never joined FB until high school, all my friends had it but I just didn't care cause I had MSN... and MSN was simple. But even I fall victim to random messages and adds. I thought it would make things simple, but the more I found myself caught up in it, the more awkward it would become because it WASN't REAL. I would talk o people on fb, but not in real life, I would think these people I added were y friends cause FB said they were... but it's not that way.
I have lost friendships due to FB and Twitter because of arguments or misleadings. Some people take unanswered messages or ignored comments seriously but cmon if you're being ignored you would but see without FB we wouldn't SEE it as much. We wouldn't feel the need to treat someone differently or hold a grudge over a blocking cause we wouldn't know they didnt like us, we could just LIVE.
I decided to give up FB for the summer to see what the difference will be, what will the outcome be? CAN we be saved? Are there people out there who will accept me for not having it or will they see it as weird?
Some of us keep wishing things were more simple, that the old ways of face to face communication still existed. I want to see if LIFE is actually better without FB or is it just the fact we need to cut down on the media sites.
Because they do have positives.
But there is irony in the mediums. They are suppose to CONNECT us, yet I find as well as many others I talk to, they find it to be distracting, causing problems and becoming more of a bad thing then a good thing.
THINK ABOUT IT!
Before FB/Twitter you were your own person. You didn't feel the need to see what your friends were posting, what they liked or shared. You didn't bother to define a relationship by being friends on social media sites and no one heard of a random add or message. You simply lived your life. You didn't know if say Cindy hated you or if Max didn't invite you to an event or lied to you. It was what it was, but FB?Twitter now allows us to see all of these things whether we want to or not and they keep expanding on it to make things worse, We can now see when people read our messages, when they comment on something or when they add new people. It's actually quite scary.
We rely on these sites too much, they have now become an easier escape root of sending someone a message no not by chat but figuratively. We BLOCK people, UNFRIEND/ UNFOLLOW them. We make status updates hinted at the person, in hopes they see it. The person in turn is suppose to just ACCEPT that and move on. Maybe its my Newfoundland ways or my BA in Communications but wouldn't it be beneficial to just TALK IT OUT, not everything has to end so awkwardly. This hinting game is childish and not mature. REAL LIFE is not like FB, you can't block your boss, family or strangers from talking but yet we have that mentality that its ACCEPTABLE to do that now. It's just a very cheap way of ending things or not bothering to fix a situation.
The NORM has changed due to social media. And it's a can't win situation. Remember when a story of how people met was strangers talking to strangers (that's what we all are until we communicate and move things forward) AND here's the kicker it wasn't THAT weird cause that was the only way of communicating. If you wanted to talk to someone you built up the courage to go over and talk to them and you'd get to know each other face to face. You might exchang numbers but other than that YOU got to know the person by ENGAGING with them, not browsing their profile.
But here is the thing, when a random person that you just met or maybe just has an interest in knowing you adds you or messages you on FB that is NOT NORMAL, but yet in this day and age if they tried the earlier version THAT wouldn't be normal either. You CAN'T have it BOTH ways.
We are a fucked up generation due to technology, it becomes an easy escape from reality or how to handle things.
MY PERSONAL EXPERIENCE:
I never joined FB until high school, all my friends had it but I just didn't care cause I had MSN... and MSN was simple. But even I fall victim to random messages and adds. I thought it would make things simple, but the more I found myself caught up in it, the more awkward it would become because it WASN't REAL. I would talk o people on fb, but not in real life, I would think these people I added were y friends cause FB said they were... but it's not that way.
I have lost friendships due to FB and Twitter because of arguments or misleadings. Some people take unanswered messages or ignored comments seriously but cmon if you're being ignored you would but see without FB we wouldn't SEE it as much. We wouldn't feel the need to treat someone differently or hold a grudge over a blocking cause we wouldn't know they didnt like us, we could just LIVE.
I decided to give up FB for the summer to see what the difference will be, what will the outcome be? CAN we be saved? Are there people out there who will accept me for not having it or will they see it as weird?
Some of us keep wishing things were more simple, that the old ways of face to face communication still existed. I want to see if LIFE is actually better without FB or is it just the fact we need to cut down on the media sites.
Because they do have positives.
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